It is undeniable that there is a spark between you. TEGAN: The song itself is about that moment you meet someone, and you wonder if it's going to be a relationship or not. What’s your defense? And do you have any old lyrics you regret? On this song you rhyme “fire” and “desire.” Last year there was an article calling that pairing the laziest rhyme in songwriting history. It looked like like our first gay man date. TEGAN: It’s also very funny because of we looked so much like boys. They brought us each a flower, and then we went to Dairy Queen. But Tegan and I have these horrifying pictures of ourselves in third grade, on our first date with these two boys whom asked us out. Because I think at some point, it can be very challenging not to get feelings for people when you're so close to them, so it’s not their fault. Though I cherish the relationships with my guy friends, I've had to create a unique set of boundaries with guys as I've gotten older. You can have an intimacy that can be very confusing. For me, I've always approached my relationships with men almost as if I was a man. But I definitely have always had very intimate relationships with men, and I think that's where those lines can be very blurry. I came out, and I've only partnered with women since that point. I had serious relationships when I was a teenager, but after I got out of high school, I never had a serious boyfriend again. SARA: I had my first boyfriend in the third grade. That's been a huge part of our twenties, and now early thirties: the transition from feeling like terrified, young girls having to prove ourselves.īefore you came out, did you have boyfriends? When you start out in the music business, you feel a little out of control, and you're working hard to get people's attention and focus. I don't feel as intimidated when I'm in the States, taking meetings with people, and sharing our thoughts. We've garnered up enough respect now because we've been around long enough. Before, when it came to people at the record label, or journalists - people that we relied on to help spread the message about our band - often I felt like we were kids trying to convince people to take us seriously. I see a lot of the people that we work with as peers. SARA: I think Tegan and I have always had a lot of confidence when it comes to the music business, but certainly now with our eighth record, and the industry especially down in the United States - I don't feel very afraid of it.

What did you used to be afraid of that you’re not anymore?

Tegan and sarah interview